Navigating Mixed Signals in Professional Relationships

A protected lamp glowing in the dark

 In this education journey, you’ll meet people who will tell you, “I admire your work.”

They’ll say, “You inspire me.”

And it feels good, because that’s why many of us do what we do. We want to make a difference, and it’s humbling when someone notices.


But sometimes, admiration comes with mixed signals!


Someone looks up to you today, gets too close tomorrow, and then...just like that...pulls away.

You’re left wondering, “What changed?”


Dear Educators,

Let’s talk about it.




Admiration is not the same as commitment

When people admire you, it doesn’t always mean they’re ready to grow at the same pace as you.

Some are drawn to your light, your confidence, your consistency, your voice, but they may not understand the discipline behind it.


So, when they start acting strange or distant, don’t take it personally.

Sometimes, they admired the results without understanding the process.




You don’t have to prove your goodness

Some people try to “repay” your kindness with grand gestures... they make promises, talk about giving back, or announce plans that never quite happen.


It’s not always deceit; sometimes it’s pressure. They want to show they’re grateful or successful too.

But true appreciation doesn’t need performance. Real gratitude is quiet and steady.


As an educator or leader, learn to receive thanks without reading too much into it. Smile, say thank you, and keep moving.




Real connection shows up consistently

It’s easy for people to call you “mentor,” “coach,” “my person,” etc... 😄

But titles mean little without consistency.


If someone truly values you, you’ll see it ...not in flattery, but in follow-through.

Don’t get attached to people who come close one season and disappear the next. Appreciate the moment, but don’t build your expectations on it.




Boundaries protect your peace

In our line of work, we attract hearts ... people who trust easily and share deeply. That’s beautiful, but also draining if we don’t set boundaries.


Boundaries don’t make you proud or distant, they make you healthy.

Know who to advise, who to support, and who simply needs a listening ear. Not everyone who reaches out deserves full access to your space.




Let grace lead the way

When people don’t keep their word or fade away after big talk, it’s tempting to feel disappointed.

But the truth is that many times, they’re not bad people ...just unfinished ones. They’re still growing!


So, instead of anger, choose grace.

You can wish them well without staying entangled.


Grace is your strength, not your weakness.


☘️



In this work of touching lives, you’ll meet three kinds of people:


1. Those who admire you.

2. Those who align with your vision.

3. And those who are simply passing through.


Each one comes with a lesson.

Your job is to stay kind, stay wise, and stay true to who you are.


Keep shining your light ... but don’t forget to guard your peace. 💛






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